Show notes and transcripts for previous episodes of Sensual Self
Episode 52: The Sexually Liberated Woman is Nonbinary
In this one, Ev'Yan talks about gender and identity—specifically their gender identity and how that identity intersects with their sexuality, relationships, work, and the way they see themselves. Ev'Yan also makes a huge announcement about the future of The Sexually Liberated Woman.
Episode 51: So, You Wanna Be a Sex Educator
In this one, Ev'Yan sits down with Cameron Glover (@thecameronglover) to talk about the sex educational field—what sex education is and means, how to get started, and what you should consider before getting into it yourself. This conversation isn't just for budding sex educators. This is also for folks who've been in the field for years, and Cameron specifically shares some gems about what sexuality professionals (present and future) need to be doing in order to be doing "the work."
Episode 50: Shame-Free Masturbation
In honor of Masturbation month, Ev'Yan shares a healing practice that helps you achieve shame-free masturbation—particularly if the mental/emotional chatter you have about it makes self-pleasuring seem impossible.
Episode 49: How We're Living Apart Together (with Jonathan Mead)
Ev'Yan chats with her husband, Jonathan Mead (@jonathanmead), about their choice to intentionally live apart, and they both answer questions about how this has been working for them. Particularly: how it's changed their sex lives, what their families think about it, and how they're handling all of this while going through a global pandemic.
Episode 48: We're Living Apart—Together
Ev’Yan gives a vulnerable update on the state of her marriage—and talks about why she decided to live separately from her partner of 13+ years.
Episode 47: Pleasure-Centered & Unfuckwithable
Well, look what the 'rona dragged in. Ev'Yan's back with explanations about where on earth she's been (hint: trying to recoup and heal from some challenging and tragic times) and to also share some of the pleasure and grounding practices she's been leaning on since her life exploded. If you're feeling stressed, anxious, or disembodied, these practices are for you
Episode 46: Let's Talk About Sexual Desire | sponsored by unblush
How do you feel about talking about sexual desire? In this one, Ev'Yan talks about hers—the way it's fluctuated over the years, the shame and stigma attached to talking about that fluctuation, and what she's learned about sexual desire through her struggles to understand it.
Back For Seconds: Oshun and Decolonizing Black Femme Sexuality
There’s someone whose name I’ve been seeing come up a lot lately. I’ve heard her name used before a couple of times, but lately it seems like she is everywhere—in my witchy spaces, in the articles I’ve been reading about feminism and sexuality, she’s even showing up in my client work.
Back For Seconds: Men Need Sexual Liberation Too
Ev’Yan Whitney revisits a conversation she had with a sexually woke guy who goes by the name "Expressions Untold" where they talk about male sexuality and what men’s sexual liberation looks like.
Episode 45: Sex and Cannabis with Jarani Taja
Ev’Yan brings back her sister and cannabis expert, Jarani, to talk about their individual relationships with weed and sex.
Episode 44: Are You Cliterate? With Sophia Wallace
Ev’Yan chats with conceptual artist and “clit activist” Sophia Wallace—best known for her viral art project Cliteracy—to talk about all of the myths and misconceptions about the clitoris (and there’s a lot). Sophia’s own realization of the true anatomy of the clit is what fueled her need to become cliterate, which is the practice of being clitoris literate.
Episode 43: Sex with Friends: Diamond Stylz
Ev’Yan brings back her series, Sex with Friends—special conversations that feature the sexual origin stories of some of her favorite people. In this episode, Diamond Stylz walks down memory lane through her childhood and shares some of the funny and life-changing moments that shaped how she came to explore her own sexuality.
Episode 42: Consent is Actually Sexy with Jaclyn Friedman
Ev’Yan sits down with writer, educator and activist Jaclyn Friedman, to talk all about consent. They explore the change in how we view and talk about consent, from before Jaclyn wrote her first book, Yes Means Yes, until now. Jaclyn also breaks down the difference and importance of enthusiastic and affirmative consent, giving a new frame around what consent looks like in practice
Episode 41: 21 Sex Questions feat. Ev'Yan's Mom and Sister
Ev'Yan's mom and sister return for a riveting, funny, and lighthearted game of 21 questions where they each share their sexual confessions and personal experiences with each other. Ev’Yan’s mom even learns maybe a little too much about “butt stuff”.
Episode 40: The Trauma Queen with Jimanekia Eborn
Ev’Yan sits down with a comprehensive sex educator and sexual assault and trauma expert, Jimanekia Eborn to speak all about sexual trauma. First, Jimanekia shares her personal story about how she came into doing this work and then, the two of them go into what it looks like to support sexual assault survivors through their healing.
Episode 39: Cats are Sluts With Kristen Sollée
Ev’Yan sits down with writer, educator, and former guest of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast, Kristen Sollée. Ev’Yan and Kristen reminisce about their previous conversation from Episode 7: A Slut is a Sexually Liberated Woman and chat about the book Kristen wrote since then, “Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive”.
Sex Resolutions
Ev'Yan peeps her head out of her hibernation cave! She shares a few of the sex resolutions she made for 2019 in this bonus episode.
Episode 38: Che Che is a Sexually Liberated Person
In my work as a sexuality doula and sex educator, I’ve had the privilege of working with some incredible women and femmes who are ready to change and dramatically heal their sexualities. They come to me because they’ve spent years feeling sexually inhibited, years feeling shame and dogma and trauma, and they’re tired of it.
Episode 37: Ask a Sexuality Doula
Ev'Yan gives sex advice and helps solve some listeners' sexuality conundrums—from sexual liberated virgins to orgasm frustrations to a boyfriend who hates his girlfriend's pubic hair to troubleshooting missing sex drives.
Episode 36: My Sister is a Sexually Liberated Woman
In this one, Ev'Yan and her little sister, Jarani, have a vulnerable and funny conversation about sex. They reminisce about Jarani's first sex talk, her growing up as a late bloomer, and what it was like for her coming into her sexuality as the "good girl" in the family.