I AM
EV’YAN
WHITNEY
I’m a sexuality doula®, author, facilitator, and sensualist, and for the last 10+ years I’ve had an insatiable curiosity about my sexuality, sensuality, and body, and the ways I need to heal in order to take up space within the expression of those things.
For much of my adult life, sexuality and pleasure were not just elusive to me, they often felt inaccessible, as though I was just one of those people who didn’t have the ability to ever feel free and light when it came to sex. I didn’t know what I needed or how to ask for it. And the expression of my sexuality was weighed down by shame, insecurity, trauma, and fear.
I entered this work of sexual healing and liberation from a selfish place—I wanted to better understand my sexuality and sensuality after years of being taught that ownership of those things were off-limits to me; that my body was a site of temptation to myself and others; that the voice of my desires shouldn’t be trusted; and that I wasn’t allowed to claim my wants because of the rigidity of respectability.
I wanted to challenge and rewrite those narratives. I wanted to claim my sexuality as mine outside of shame and the trauma I inherited intergenerationally.
I wanted to be sexually free, self-defined, on my own terms. And through that wanting, I’ve inspired hundreds of thousands of individuals to do that same.
A sexual trauma survivor, somatic practitioner, and a Black queer nonbinary person on the ace spectrum—after years of self-discovery and many evolutions, I know who I am as a sexual being and I’m proud of every identity that I embody.
And that is my deepest wish for you. I want to help you uncover, heal, and claim all parts of yourself, from your sexuality and nuanced identities to your sensual body and how to occupy space with it in ways that make you feel safe and good.
What is a Sexuality Doula®?
As a Sexuality Doula, I educate, facilitate, support, and hold space for women and nonbinary folks as I help them reclaim their unique sexual expressions, reconnect to their sensual bodies, and define themselves in these areas on their own terms. In pioneering this term in 2014, I am an advocate for the sexual liberation and healing of others, for the hopes, dreams, and desires they have regarding their sexual life, and I work intimately with my clients and students to help them uncover and bring joy and pleasure to their sexuality, bodies, identities, and relationships—both with their partners and with themselves.
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My mission is to breathe sensual light into you, to create space for you to reconnect to your body, and to gently guide you towards healing that’ll shake the foundations of the lies you’ve internalized about your pleasure, power, and worth.
Some places I’ve been featured.
If You Don’t Want Sex, It’s Not Always a Problem — The Atlantic
Why I Decided to Stop Shaving — The Lift
Beyond the Gender Binary — Black Folks Breathing
A Sensualist’s 7 Tips for Finding Sexual Freedom — Bon Appetite
Sensual Dance Meditation for Processing Difficult Emotions — mindbodygreen
Pleasure is for Everyone and Everybody — Holisticism
How This Sexuality Doula Found Her Calling — Well + Good
Did You Forget How to Have Sex During the Pandemic? — Glamour
How to Ask Your Partner to Prioritize Your Pleasure — Elite Daily
Inside the World of a Sexuality Doula — Nylon
How Black People Are Shifting Attitudes Around Sexual Well-Being — Byrdie
5 Ways to Connect With Your Sensuality — mindbodygreen
FUN FACTS
I AM A
Virgo Sun
Cancer Moon
Sagittarius Rising
I’m nonbinary, left-handed, and I never eat the first bite of an apple.
The way to my heart is through pastry and out of everything I’ve ever created in my work, my favorite is the Sensual Selfie Challenge.
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Let yourself be soft.