In my work as a sexuality doula and sex educator, I’ve had the privilege of working with some incredible women and femmes who are ready to change and dramatically heal their sexualities. They come to me because they’ve spent years feeling sexually inhibited, years feeling shame and dogma and trauma, and they’re tired of it.
They’re tired of being disconnected from their bodies, they’re tired of the old stories and insecurities blocking their sexual expression. They want to feel more free. They want more pleasure, more intimacy, more confidence, more joy in their sexual lives and they’re ready to do whatever it takes to finally step into that.
Che Che came to me a bit further along in her sexual liberation journey than most of the people I work with. She had a deep connection with her body, she had a sensuality practice, she had reconciled with much of the shame that had weighed down her sexuality in the past.
But there was still something missing for her.
She wanted more intimacy with her wife. She wanted to challenge some of the negative stories around her arousal and orgasm. She wanted to find her erotic voice.
"As a queer woman of color, to be able to reclaim the truth that I'm not broken feels like the single most empowering thing I can do in this life."
In the three months that we worked together, I watched Che Che blossom into a sensual, powerful woman. I watched her claim and prioritize her pleasure. I watched her transform the sexual relationship she had with her wife.
But one of the best parts about our work together was that through that work, Che Che became a sex and sensuality coach of her own.
This conversation was such a pleasure as was my time spent working with her. And I’m excited to introduce you to Che Che and her story.
What we talked about—
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