I began my journey toward sexual freedom while reading one of Anaïs Nin’s diaries in a quiet corner. From there, my mind was opened to a way of being that always felt off limits to me. My own curiosity guided me to awakening.
Since then, I’ve been devouring books on the erotic and have developed an extensive library on all things sexuality and self-actualization.
I don’t believe that sexual liberation needs to be an arduous undertaking. It can (and should) come from tiny steps taken toward following your curiosity. And if you’re curious and looking for a place to dive in, this page is for you!
Here are some of my favorite books that have helped me blossom into a sexually liberated woman, and have helped my clients as they’re on their path of sexual self-discovery.
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Healing Your Sexuality
Sexual trauma, shame, and how to find healing.
Healing Trauma — Peter A. Levine
Yes Means Yes — Jessica Valenti
Secret Bad Girl — Rachael Maddox
The Body Keeps Score — Bessel A. Van Der Kolk
The Courage to Heal — Ellen Bass, Laura Davis
Trauma is Really Strange — Steve Haines
Healing Sex — Staci Haines
Sexuality & Erotic Expression
Solo sexual relationships (i.e., masturbation), orgasm, and uncovering your erotic power.
For Yourself— Lonnie Barbach
Sex For One — Betty Dobson
Women’s Anatomy of Arousal — Sheri Winston
Exhibitionism for the Shy — Carol Queen
The Emergence of the Sensual Woman — Saida Desilets
Women’s Experience of Sex — Sheila Kitzinger
Full Exposure — Susie Bright
Promiscuities: The Secret Struggle for Womanhood — Naomi Wolf
Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski
Body Love & Self-Acceptance
Self-care, self-love, yonis, and honoring your natural rhythms.
I’ll Show You Mine — Wrenna Robertson
The Women’s Belly Book — Lisa Sarasohn
Coming Home to Myself — Marion Woodman
The Way of the Happy Woman — Sara Avant Stover
Radical Acceptance — Tara Brach
Cunt Coloring Book — Tee Corinne
Love & Relationships
Non-monogamy, masculine/feminine polarity, and tantra.
The Ethical Slut — Dossie, Easton
Opening Up — Tristan Taormino
Sex at Dawn — Christopher Ryan, Cacilda Jethá
Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel
Urban Tantra — Barbara Carrellas
Dear Lover — David Deida
Slow Sex — Nicole Deidone
Men in Love — Nancy Friday
The State of Affairs — Esther Perel
Divine Feminine & Wild Woman
Goddesses, witches, and other feminine archetypes.
Wild Feminine — Tami Kent
Women Who Run With the Wolves — Clarissa Pinkola Estés
She — Robert Johnson
Goddesses in Everywoman — Jean Shinoda Bolen
What French Women Know — Debra Ollivier
Witches, Sluts, Feminists — Kristen Sollee
For Black women & women/femmes of color
Intergenerational trauma, respectability politics, and sexuality at the intersection of race and gender.
Ain’t I A Woman — bell hooks
Stolen Women — Dr. Gail Elizabeth Wyatt
Longing to Tell — Tricia Rose
The Sisters Are Alright — Tamara Winfrey Harris
Zami: A New Spelling of My Name — Audre Lorde
This Will Be My Undoing — Morgan Jerkins
Beyonce In Formation — Omise’eke Natasha Tinsley
Porn & Erotica
Diverse, queer-of-center, feminist, and hot. (18+)
- X Confessions by Erika Lust
- Crash Pad Series
- Four Chambers
- Pink and White Studios
- Allie Oops
- Delta of Venus — Anais Nin
- My Secret Garden — Nancy Friday
Other amazing sex-positive websites
- Corset Magazine
- Poly Role Models
- Wild Flower Sex Q&A
- Oh Joy Sex Toy
- Emily Nagoski
Some sex-positive folks to follow on Instagram
*For more people to follow, check out who I follow on Instagram.
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